Ever feel like you’re navigating the world of special needs parenting all by yourself?
You’re not alone.
Isolation is a common experience among parents of children with neurological conditions, but it doesn’t have to define your journey.
In a recent conversation with Michelle Choairy, a parent who’s walked this path, we explored practical ways to move from isolation to connection. Michelle shared her T.H.R.I.V.E. framework—a powerful tool designed to help parents build a supportive community, navigate complex systems, and celebrate the small wins that make all the difference.
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Welcome to ‘The Happy Sensory Corner’ – the podcast where we explore the world of sensory enrichment and environmental enrichment to treat neurological conditions.
Through insightful discussions, interviews with experienced experts in a variety of fields, from nutrition to psychology, and inspiring stories of resilience, we uncover the secrets to success in raising a child with complex needs. Discover practical strategies, sensory enrichment protocols, and evidence-based practices that can transform lives one episode at a time.
Vandana Atara Aura, a certified medical Reiki master, shares how energy healing can regulate the nervous system, why neurodivergent individuals often have heightened intuitive abilities, and how gentle touch can help those who struggle with sensory overwhelm.
These are areas close to Vandana’s heart, as she has seen firsthand how energy healing has helped her neurodivergent son find calm and balance.
Claudie Pomares, co-founder of Mendability, brings in the neuroscience perspective, explaining how soft touch releases serotonin and fosters brain plasticity.
She shares practical sensory enrichment strategies, including how to use scent in a way that helps de-escalate meltdowns and promote relaxation.
Episode Highlights
08:03 – What does it mean for a chakra to be “open” or “blocked”? Vandana explains how energy imbalances show up in neurodivergent individuals.
15:40 – Are neurodivergent people naturally more intuitive? Vandana shares her perspective on why people on the spectrum often have heightened telepathic abilities.
19:33 – Reiki for self-regulation: Why it works so well for people who struggle to calm themselves down.
27:35 – A powerful story: How Reiki helped bullied neurodivergent teens regain confidence and reclaim their personal power.
29:43 – The surprising way smell can trigger dopamine and how parents can use olfactory enrichment at home.
30:55 – Essential oils vs. food flavoring for scent therapy—what works best and why Mendability takes a different approach.
35:26 – A simple way to introduce scents without overwhelming sensory-sensitive kids.
39:40 – How brain plasticity plays a role in sensory healing, and why personalized therapy plans matter.
42:40 – Claudie explains how soft touch directly impacts the brain, triggering serotonin release and fostering relaxation.
51:43 – The most rewarding part of Vandana’s work: Teaching neurodivergent kids Reiki and watching them thrive.
Teamwork: Finding the Right Support
The saying “It takes a village” couldn’t be more true when raising a child with special needs. Yet, many parents struggle to find that village, leading to feelings of isolation and burnout. Michelle emphasized the importance of teamwork as the foundation of her T.H.R.I.V.E. framework.
You don’t have to do it alone. Building a support network starts with identifying people who truly understand your challenges. This could include other parents, specialists, or even friends who are willing to listen and offer practical help.
“You can’t do it alone—find the right people who can support you and your child.”
Research shows that parents of children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and other special needs often experience higher levels of stress and anxiety【source】. Having a strong support system can significantly alleviate these pressures, providing emotional and practical assistance when you need it most.
Help Systems: Navigating the Maze
If you’ve ever felt lost in the labyrinth of school districts, state programs, and insurance policies, you’re not alone. These systems can be overwhelming, especially when you’re already managing the day-to-day challenges of your child’s needs.
Michelle’s journey taught her that understanding and navigating these systems is crucial for accessing the resources your child deserves.
“Help systems are your lifeline—learn how to navigate school districts, state programs, and insurance to get the resources you need.”
Knowing where to start can make all the difference. Start by connecting with your local support organizations. These organizations offer resources and guidance to help you understand your rights and the services available to your child.
Celebrating Small Wins: Expect the Miracle
When was the last time you celebrated a small victory? For parents of children with special needs, these moments can be easy to overlook amidst the daily grind. But Michelle reminds us that these small wins are worth celebrating.
“Expect the miracle, no matter how small.”
Whether it’s finally getting out of the car without a meltdown or completing a simple task independently, these moments are significant. They’re not just milestones; they’re miracles in their own right.
Research supports this approach—celebrating small achievements can boost your child’s confidence and encourage further progress【source**】. So, take a moment to recognize and rejoice in these moments. It’s not just about the big milestones; it’s about appreciating every step forward.
Self-Care: Integration is Key
As a parent, your well-being directly impacts your child’s progress. Yet, self-care often takes a backseat to the demands of caregiving. Michelle’s T.H.R.I.V.E. framework includes self-care as a critical component—not a luxury, but a necessity.
“If you’re not well, your child won’t be either.”
Studies have shown that parents who prioritize their well-being are better equipped to support their children【source】. Even small breaks, like a walk outside or a few minutes of meditation, can recharge your batteries and make a significant difference in how you handle daily challenges.
Connection Overcomes Isolation
The journey from isolation to connection isn’t easy, but it’s possible. Michelle’s T.H.R.I.V.E. framework offers a roadmap to help you build the community you need. By focusing on teamwork, navigating help systems, celebrating small victories, and integrating self-care, you can transform your experience from one of isolation to one of connection and support.
Don’t let isolation define your story. Start building your village today.
For more insights from Michelle and other experts, tune in to our latest podcast episode.