Have you ever felt that the right words at the right time can change everything?
Words can be powerful, especially for those navigating life with neurological conditions like Tourette’s or ADHD.
In our recent podcast episode, we sat down with Kristof Morrow, a US Navy veteran and accomplished writer who shares how words have been a lifeline for him—and how they can be for others as well.
Welcome to ‘The Happy Sensory Corner in Special Ed’ – the podcast where we explore the world of sensory enrichment and environmental enrichment in special education.
Through insightful discussions, interviews with experienced special education directors, and inspiring stories of resilience, we uncover the secrets to success in special education. Discover practical strategies, sensory enrichment protocols, and evidence-based practices that can transform the lives of special education students and educators.
Anneke Elmhirst is a relationship coach and former behavior analyst. With her we discuss:
– Ethical concerns with ABA practices and how they can impact neurodivergent children.
– The importance of respect and self-regulation in building healthier relationships between neurodivergent children and their parents.
– How parent education can foster acceptance and long-term well-being for children with special needs.
Anneke shares her journey from behavior analysis to relationship coaching, revealing why she left the ABA field due to ethical concerns and how she now empowers families and individuals to thrive authentically.
Claudie explains the brain’s role in self-regulation and the neurobiology behind stress reduction in children with sensory challenges. She also shares sensory enrichment strategies, including specific games to support emotional regulation and build trust between parents and children.
Episode Highlights
@3:37 – Anneke explains why she transitioned from ABA to coaching, citing the need for more ethical, child-centered practices.
@7:28 – Anneke describes her concerns about the societal pressures in ABA, including an anecdote about pushing children toward “age-appropriate” recreational skills that might not bring them joy.
@13:33 – Anneke challenges the idea that parents must “change” their children to fit societal norms and highlights the importance of fostering acceptance.
@15:23 – Anneke shares practical steps for educating parents about behaviors like stimming and how to help them reframe these actions positively.
@24:06 – Claudie explains how serotonin imbalances contribute to anxiety in nonverbal children and describes sensory enrichment activities, like massage and music, that help children self-regulate.
@38:11 – Claudie shares a touching story about how offering alternatives for a child’s unsafe stimming behavior led to mutual respect between the child and parent.
@38:51 – Anneke highlights why respect is a two-way street and shares how children often communicate respect in unique ways.
@40:52 – Anneke discusses how teaching children to respect boundaries fosters emotional growth and independence.
The Importance of Patience and Belief
Living with or caring for someone with Tourette’s or similar conditions can be challenging.
Kristof emphasizes the critical role of patience and believing in your loved one’s experience.
He shares,
“Patience—both in oneself and from others—is the foundation of any meaningful relationship when navigating these challenges.”
Research shows that patience is crucial in caregiving for individuals with neurological conditions, as it helps build trust and emotional stability.
Imagine feeling misunderstood or dismissed because your struggles aren’t immediately visible or easily explained.
For people with Tourette’s, being believed is essential.
It’s not just about support; it’s about validation.
Kristof reminds us that what we often take for granted—a few minutes of listening, a moment of empathy—can be life-changing for those who need it most.
When Words Are a Bridge
Kristof introduces the idea of using cards that explain neurological conditions like Tourette’s.
“These simple tools can be incredibly effective in helping others understand behaviors that might seem out of place,”
Kristof explains.
Think about how often we rely on non-verbal cues to explain or justify our actions.
Now imagine not having that luxury, where a sudden movement or sound is met with judgment instead of understanding.
These cards serve as a bridge, connecting the neurodivergent individual’s world with the neurotypical one.
It’s a small step, but one that can lead to greater acceptance and fewer misunderstandings.
Channeling ADHD into Creative Outlets
ADHD is often viewed as a hindrance, but Kristof turns that notion on its head.
He shares,
“I channel my ADHD into productive and creative outlets, transforming what could be seen as a weakness into a powerful strength.”
Whether it’s writing, photography, or journalism, Kristof’s work is a testament to the idea that neurodivergent individuals can not only thrive but excel in their chosen fields.
It’s about finding the right channel for that energy, where the very thing that makes one different becomes the source of their success.
The Power of Storytelling
Kristof’s love for writing and storytelling wasn’t just a hobby—it was a discovery that changed his life.
Reflecting on how he found his voice through writing, Kristof says,
“Creative writing isn’t just about putting words on paper; it’s about expressing thoughts and emotions that might otherwise remain trapped inside.”
For Kristof, storytelling is a tool for connection, not just with others but with oneself.
Reading as a Gateway to Understanding
Claudie Pomares, another guest on the podcast, highlights the importance of reading beautiful, age-appropriate texts to neurodivergent children.
In our fast-paced, screen-filled world, it’s easy to overlook the simple act of reading.
But for children who process the world differently, reading can be a gateway to understanding and emotional growth.
Claudie shares,
“When you read to children, especially neurodivergent ones, you’re not just improving their literacy; you’re nurturing their emotional well-being and sense of belonging.”
This practice goes beyond literacy—it’s about helping children feel more connected and understood.
Words that Heal and Connect
One of the most poignant moments in the episode is when Kristof reads a passage from his book at 32:07.
The passage illustrates the power of acceptance and belonging—two things that can be elusive for neurodivergent individuals.
Kristof’s words remind us that acceptance isn’t just a gift we give to others; it’s something we all crave.
For those living with neurological conditions, feeling accepted can be the difference between isolation and connection, between despair and hope.
Kristof’s words resonate deeply:
“Acceptance and belonging are what we all strive for; words are the bridge that can take us there.”
Words as a Lifeline
Kristof’s journey is a powerful reminder that words are more than just tools for communication—they’re lifelines.
Whether it’s through a well-timed card, a patient conversation, or the pages of a book, words can heal, connect, and transform.
If you or someone you know is navigating life with a neurological condition, remember that the right words can make all the difference.